Lessons of the Day

I learned two important lessons today. first, the 'brothers', even those weak ones who are less smart and cant protect themselves, still can have choices. Some of them have a strong unhealthy relationship with their mother and have never really been able to make decisions or stand up for themselves. They are still waiting for someone, for example, me, to be the 'mother'.
This week, there have been a few occasions I caught myself fighting someone else's battle. So, I have to remind myself that, instead of telling the bully off and speaking up for the bullied, I can hold back, pray and offer advice only when they ask. 'Ask and then be given' is grace, but 'give without being asked' can be man-pleasing or even manipulation.

Anyway, it's useful to know that it is no use to confront a new 'brother' who has spent years in the triad but less than 2 weeks in our house about how to treat others properly, without him knowing the heart of Jesus and the values in the family of God.

Here is another more pain-taking lesson. I'll skip the details. Anyway, it breaks my heart to see how my lack of sensitivity may lead to a brother breaking his heart. God, test my every thought and show me on what my identity has been building on, and help me know You are the fountain of my life.